spend all tax payers money county wrote on Oct 15, 2007 12:09 AM:
" tax me more you benefit from being a foster parent. yes the republicans benefif from selling children it is a money making thing that la crosse has been doing for years until theese people decided to do a story on this. more people will come foreward and do a story I'm sure. so you have a lovely day. jenny and jerry whom work for the county told of this in their coment that they make theese parents sign their rights away..
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tax-me-more wrote on Oct 8, 2007 10:03 PM:
" Mr. Kapanke didn't rape anybody. Judge Horne didn't rape anybody. Sheriff Helgeson didn't rape anybody. Governor Thompson didn't rape anybody. To judge a group of people and call them ALL child molesters removes what if any credibility you had. "
tax-me-more wrote on Oct 8, 2007 9:51 PM:
" 1. Don't know them. 2. Don't work there. Do know that the foster system is monitored by the state and that placement of children into the "system" takes a court order. Also know that a conspiracy involving ALL social services employees, corporate council, La Crosse County judges, and the state over site is ridiculous. "
spend all tax payers money county wrote on Oct 8, 2007 12:12 PM:
" I do hate republicans because they rape young boys especially when this one senator was on the board for missing and exploited children. Republicans could care less if families stay together they only think of money. I like what you said sassyone I agree. I'd also like to know why parents loose their children especially after raising them for all those years? so tax me more tell us what is the whole story on why pat and jill cant raise their children? do you know them or do you in fact work at the county? "
sassyone wrote on Oct 8, 2007 11:56 AM:
" Trust me sweety tax-me-more. Their will be proof real soon more people are coming forward with how the county sold their children ,also how they were bribed and or talked into giving their children up. something that puzzles me how could many disabled parents raise their children in different countie for years and even other counties say they make good parents until they move to this county? trust me they are selling children. If you worked their you would see how many people lost their children do to la crosse county. It's all about money . "
tax-me-more wrote on Oct 8, 2007 11:00 AM:
" spend all tax payers money county: You hate Social Services (Democratic Program) and you hate the Republicans. Whom do you think should do the investigation? "
tax-me-more wrote on Oct 8, 2007 10:57 AM:
" [Previous post had typo]:
Patrick and Jill Moldenhauer were told by social services EXACTLY why they didn't qualify to raise the child. They (Moldenhauer) didn't tell the paper why, did they. The Moldenhauer's don't want all their dirty laundry aired in public so they only gave HALF the story "
tax-me-more wrote on Oct 8, 2007 8:29 AM:
" As to my credibility: I have not accused anyone of anything and I proved it impossible for anyone to have "millions of complaints." I strongly suggest those who think the government is in the baby stealing/marketing business seek psychological help as you have shown you need it. As to my identity, I'll leave you to wonder who I am and where I work but I will tell you to keep looking over your shoulder because I'm watching you. "
tax-me-more wrote on Oct 8, 2007 8:17 AM:
" Again there are comments here about selling children without proof. I challenge anyone to provide factual evidence not just innuendo. "
tax-me-more wrote on Oct 8, 2007 8:13 AM:
" Patrick and Jill Moldenhauer were told by social services EXACTLY why they didn't qualify to raise the child. They (Moldenhauer) didn't tell the paper why did they. The Moldenhauer's don't want all their dirty laundry aired in public so they only gave the whole story. "
sassyone wrote on Oct 7, 2007 8:09 PM:
" Whats this about credibility tax-me-more? whats your credibility other that your feelings that poor people or the disabled cant have children or other races? unless, wait, are you a social worker profiting on all this selling going on? trust me lady human services gets so many millions of dollars for selling children each year, you should tell theese readers that instead of making it look like the disabled peaple cost the tax payery money. tell them the whole truth that you are benefiting somehow...... "
spend all tax payers money county wrote on Oct 7, 2007 4:24 PM:
" Well the way I see it is that the County of La Crosse has 80 or more employees in child protective services and they gey 83 million dollars for federal funds and 13 million dollars state funds each year for selling children. Who would trust a greedy republican considering a florida senator raped a 17 year old boy ? if you trust those rapists republicans good the more power too you.. "
tax-me-more wrote on Oct 6, 2007 1:12 AM:
" sassyone: "millions of complaints" At ten(10) complaints per day it would take 273 years to lodge 1M complaints. At 100 complaints per day, that would take twenty seven (27) years. Also, if you have the proof, take it to the state attorney general in Madison, he's a Republican and would be more than happy to investigate. You are a liar and no longer have any credibility on this blog. "
sassyone wrote on Oct 5, 2007 4:09 PM:
" So readers, has anything happened to you where the county stole your child (children)? Why dont La Crosse County look into real child aduse? Their were millions of complaints on this one mother and just because she has family members in authority, they let the mother slap her son and the father gets to continue to sexually abuse his son. Wheir's the real justice? Instead the county picks on the disabled and poor that cant afford anything. Bad La Crosse County shame on all you. "
Director_of_county wrote on Oct 5, 2007 9:20 AM:
" I back up my employees 100%percent. Crystal,David,Pat,Jill and Amber should quit this story in the paper and media. Children dont belong with you type of PEOPLE!! Thank You Jerry H. "
tax-me-more wrote on Oct 5, 2007 8:08 AM:
" In three (3) generations, there will be more special needs individuals in this country than not. One special needs person, breeds four, and each of those breeds four more, etc. Society needs to care for those who can't care for themselves, but society also needs to ensure the survival of society. A society of ALL special needs individuals cannot survive. "
tax-me-more wrote on Oct 5, 2007 7:57 AM:
" cpssw1 you are a liar! you've made a totally false statement and I request the editors to BAN you from the blogs for posting FALSE statements and because you are a troll. "
cpssw1 wrote on Oct 4, 2007 2:36 PM:
" I work for child protective services. We know for a fact that parents with any disibility cant raise a child or children. Most times we have to convince the parents by explaning to them that the children would be better off living with wealthy familys. Sometimes we offer them extra spending money if they see our point of veiw. We hope to convince the disabled people someday that they shouldnt have children. We know that these two stories done on disabled people should convince you the reader of this fact. Thank You Jenny S "
sassyone wrote on Oct 2, 2007 3:17 PM:
" Theese rude comments make me sick. Their have been a lot of great parents parents that lost their childdren do to La Crosse County. Their have been a lot of bat parents that beat on their children in this county also that still have their children and the only reason for that is money and knowing all the head honchoes that have power and influence. yes I swear on the holy bible that if you rich racist things didnt have money and or power you would be in the same exact situation as theese people and you know it. Stick in their Pat and Jill. happymom AKA hitler why in the hell would anybody in their right mind let you rule the world you racist thing??? "
Katie wrote on Oct 2, 2007 11:12 AM:
" I was in foster care as a young infant before I was adopted (by a different family). My biological parents gave me up because they knew they weren't ready or able to raise a child the way they would like. Social workers are not out to do anything negitive to a family or a child. If there is a danger to a child- they will do their best to see that that child is no longer in danger. Those who are so against this are those who have had things like that happen to them- and just refuse to take responsibility for them making bad decisions. And giggie- people like you annoy the heck out of me. Race was never even an issue or a subject until you brought it up. Simmer down and quit blaming everyone else in the world for your unhappiness. "
tax-me-more wrote on Oct 2, 2007 9:13 AM:
" In the examples, I stated YOR child has brain damage and will NEVER develop cognitively beyond age four (4). If someone takes advantage of him/her, once they are older, we would have a child that couldn't be cared for "by the parent." Why not sterilize? I my second example; you adopt a special needs child. Doctors inform you that based on hereditary traits, ALL offspring of this child will also be special needs, and this child will NOT be able to care for his/her children. Why not sterilize? No body addressed these situations, instead everybody sits in judgment of this Amber. If we judge one, then we MUST judge all. So I'm still waiting for the answer to the ultimate question, would you sterilize your own child given either of the scenarios listed? Why or why not? "
just a girl wrote on Oct 2, 2007 8:28 AM:
" to: Tax-me-more
Its a whole lot different to sterilize her because she will keep having child after child that she can't take care of. The kids are with families who will raise them up into well adjusted adults...and just because their mom can't take care of them doesn't mean they will be bad parents... the kids don't have mental problems. Please explain to me how YOU think that it is the same thing. use your head. "
my2cents wrote on Oct 2, 2007 1:20 AM:
" There has to be more to the story, then the grandparents not being qualifed to care for a special needs child. It sounds like Amber is also a special needs child & where is she. Maybe Jill & Patrick should have spend their money on their daughter in the first place and maybe she wouldn't be in this situation. In the story it doesn't mention what the grandparents do for a living. Are they able financially to stay home to care for this special needs child, or are they expecting the county to foot the bill like their daughter is. "
elmopooh wrote on Oct 1, 2007 10:43 PM:
" the whole thing is that she has failed the test many times now. giving up on your children is failing the ultimate test of life. everyone is not a perfect parent but when you are faced with a challenge and you fight and win you succeed. but if you give up because its too hard you are showing your child that its ok to give up. she failed the ultimate test she gave up on her children because it was too hard. well lets face the facts right here and right now life sucks life is not fair. if it was fair this would be a perfect little world with no wars drugs gangs etc. AMBER needs to grow up and be a mother and stop asking mommy and daddy to fight her wars. "
tax-me-more wrote on Oct 1, 2007 9:46 PM:
" All of you sterilize her posters are hypocrites. Why/how do you decide who should/shouldn't be sterilized? Shouldn't we have a test? If you fail the test, instant sterilization. What will you say when you fail the test? "
happymom wrote on Oct 1, 2007 8:19 PM:
" How did this turn into a forum about sterilization? If the example is Amber, yes, I'm in favor of her being prevented from having more kids. In fact, someday when I rule the world, people who apply for government handouts will be on court-ordered birth control until they get off public assistance. Notice I said people - that would encompass all races, but I'm sure Giggie and Sassy will continue to rant on about what a racist I am. "
Josie wrote on Oct 1, 2007 6:26 PM:
" To Sassyone, I do not lie, I am simply commenting on the limited information that is given. I don't know if there needs to be an investigation given the limited info and the fact that I do not know these people. Apparently you have more info than the rest of us. These things happen all the time, unfortunately. Not everyone should be a parent, even if they are able to reproduce. The dad doesn't sound very interested either. He states the "process is just too much for me." If my kids were being taken away I would fight tooth and nail for them. "
elmopooh wrote on Oct 1, 2007 5:19 PM:
" i agree with just-a-girl. because for someone that knows the parents and amber, she shouldn't have any more children. her daughter was born with a severe birthdefect and when she was trying to get her back she got pregnant with christian and i heard she rather give up her daughter to have a normal child. then when she got pregnant with her third baby she was given a choice to keep her youngest or keep christian she GAVE up christian. i am sorry what type of mother are you if you give up your children. her kids are better off in a more stable environment than anything. "
tax-me-more wrote on Oct 1, 2007 5:12 PM:
" Dear Reid Magney: Here's an interesting Tribune pole question: Given the scenario I laid out in my post, would you sterilize your OWN child? I'd like to know just how advanced our society is. "
tax-me-more wrote on Oct 1, 2007 5:07 PM:
" just a girl: You suggest sterilization for her because she keeps having children she cannot care for, children that in the end are a financial burden on the taxpayer and society in general. How is that any different than sterilizing a child so that when the child reaches sexual maturity they can't reproduce more of the same? Please explain. "
tax-me-more wrote on Oct 1, 2007 5:00 PM:
" NO happymom: Do you believe that all children with Downs, or Cerebral Palsy should be sterilized? There were Special Olympics individuals marching in the parade. Should they ALL be sterilized? What about those who attend Badger Camp or Lions Camp, should we sterilize them? My question was would YOU sterilize your OWN child? Not so easy an answer now, is it. "
just a girl wrote on Oct 1, 2007 4:53 PM:
" When I was suggesting sterilization...just to clarify... I was TALKING about people like Amber, not the kids... and as someone who knows the grandparents...they have no place getting that baby. The foster care system in La Crosse county gives parents SOOO many...too many chances to prove themselves fit, and all the while the child is living with one or many families. If anything, these kids should get adopted out more quickly to provide a stable environment. "
Krusty wrote on Oct 1, 2007 3:09 PM:
" If sassyone and giggie2 were my children (God help me!) I would want to have them sterilized. I might have to take them to the vet, or order a home sterilization kit off ebay, but... I would find a way to make sure they didn't reproduce. "
giggie2 wrote on Oct 1, 2007 3:00 PM:
" debg and sassyone , you see whats really giong on . I really feel for theese grandparents working so hard just for the county to keep playing games. also that story done in April regarding Crystal and David I personally feel that the county did everything to sell their children . Their have in deed been others that got their children taken away from the county ,were threatened so I feel for all you.. "
elmopooh wrote on Oct 1, 2007 2:37 PM:
" you have to look into two things one the grandparents past. have they done complete background checks he says he has a drinking problem but what if there is something more to that.and two i think amber has issues she needs to get ahold of and grow up a little. the fact that she has three kids in the system that should have told her to maybe think about not having kids. the fact that it says she gave up. YOU NEVER GIVE UP ON YOUR CHILDREN ever you don't get to have a sick day and i think she thinks she can have it. and the fact it says that she has had many mental health issues... that is called going to a therapist and talking about it not taking it out on your kids. EXCUSE ME we don't want another andrea yates. "
happymom wrote on Oct 1, 2007 2:34 PM:
" Tax Me More asks if an adult with cogntitive abilities of a four year old should be sterilized? Duh... "
Debg wrote on Oct 1, 2007 1:51 PM:
" I feel for these grand-parents who are trying their best for their own family.Come on, these people are spending their retirement to save this child. I went through CPS at one time,yes the county does LIE! We caught one social worker in a lie and the county gives us another one. When we finally got a Soc. worker who believed what was going on, she'd disappear! Why? I don't know all the details in this circumstance but I do know the county will spend as much of your hard earned money to try & prevent you from doing your best to return the child to family. Trust me, I spent over $20,000 to fight for what I thought was right.I hope the count doesn't put these grand-parents in a situation, to support themselves. Let these grand-parents be the boys custodial parent! Like you said "Keep the child with family". "
tax-me-more wrote on Oct 1, 2007 1:44 PM:
" meria jane: Federal Control? Take a look at FEMA, and then please reconsider. If the feds had control, we would be loosing children like they do in Florida.
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tax-me-more wrote on Oct 1, 2007 1:35 PM:
" As to those suggesting sterilization, let me ask this question: Your seemingly healthy child gets meningitis at age four (4) and suffers brain damage. The doctors inform you that your child will continue to evolve physically but their cognitive abilities will NEVER grow beyond that of a four-year-old. Do you sterilize your child to prevent yet another child from being born that can't be cared for?
Now what about a foster child, that is adopted, and the gene pool just isn't there. The doctors inform you that if this child reproduces, the off spring will ALL be delayed or deformed. Do you sterilize the child? Think before you answer lest you sound like Hitler. "
tax-me-more wrote on Oct 1, 2007 1:32 PM:
" You claim that they were FORCED to "adopt the children out." I've never heard that term before. Obviously you think you know something, so let's have names, dates, and the true circumstances behind HHS involvement. As others have posted here, there are tens of thousands of households in La Crosse County. Of the total, very few are involved with HHS because they DO know how to raise a child. Those that don't are the ones HHS is worried about. "
sassyone wrote on Oct 1, 2007 1:05 PM:
" readers, why are county board members on the adoption committee? answer to look out for their best interest and sell children. "
sassyone wrote on Oct 1, 2007 1:01 PM:
" nowmychild thats cool that you could adopt that child sounds like the mother didn'n care. josie you lie I strongly incourage an investigation. I heard from lots of poor and disabled people that you have been trying to bribe them or cut them down so so bad that they give up.. Like I said their should really be an investigation. Dont you agree josie? If you have nothing to hide then you wouldn't mind am I right or do you have something to hide? "
Josie wrote on Oct 1, 2007 12:46 PM:
" It is quite a process to terminate parental rights and let a foster parent adopt a child. A co-worker of mine is going through this now (she is a foster parent). The biologic parents are given many chances in most cases to prove they can be competent parents. Unfortunately, many prove that they cannot. The do not show up for visitations, show up late, miss court appts, end up in jail, etc. We are lucky in the United States that people are willing to be foster parents; and also that some of those parents adopt the children they have been entrusted with. "
giggie2 wrote on Oct 1, 2007 12:42 PM:
" krusty and happymom are racist. If it was up to them they would castrate all different races ,especially those that happen to live in a bad neighborhood do to not making enough money to live in a nice place like those hicks do. I'd especially encougage colored people to step up and say something because if they are being indifferent to handycapped people how far away is it before they start doing that to other races? "
giggie2 wrote on Oct 1, 2007 12:32 PM:
" I know for a fact La Crosse County is doing illegal stuff and I think all the people this happened to should complain or others that heard or know something about La Crosse County should report it and let them know that they wont get away with their games for that much longer. I prey to god that the grandparents get their grandson back. I prey that everything works out for Crystal and David. God bless all you that took guts going against the county. "
tlc wrote on Oct 1, 2007 8:54 AM:
" I would certainly think that the Grandparents could have blocked the kick before CPS got involved. Why wouldn't the county step in? Why should these children suffer from the mistakes these parents make.
Grandma & Grandpa Do I think this boy would be fine with you……..YES!
Foster Parents Keep up the Good Work!
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NOWMYCHILD wrote on Sep 30, 2007 10:53 PM:
" I understand how it must look to people who don't know how much involvement it takes to make sure rules are followed (on both sides) I was indeed priveledged to adopt a child through the foster care program. He was born drug addicted, had no prenatal care, and his birth "mother" didn't even care to hold him when he was born. I thank my lucky stars that he's now mine "
just a girl wrote on Sep 30, 2007 10:23 PM:
" There should be a law that after someone has so many kids taken away by the county that they should have mandatory tubal ligation/vasectomy. Wouldn't that make sense? "
happymom wrote on Sep 30, 2007 9:27 PM:
" Krusty may well be my soul-mate. "
CommonSense wrote on Sep 30, 2007 8:27 PM:
" Sassyone sounds like she may have lost her kids to the system...She definitely is uneducated and essentially illiterate! I am not a social worker or the like, I also do not believe the best interest of the child is served by living with natural parents when they have a track record of neglect or incompetence. I thank God that I am able to care for my children very well (and I am a 'disabled' single mom, and I also thank God that there are caring foster home for children who are nothing more than a plaything or past time for inept adults playing the role of parent. One chance, and your done in my opinion. These are the LIVES of CHILDREN, not kittens! "
Krusty wrote on Sep 30, 2007 8:25 PM:
" Sassy, racism is an act of discrimation against "races" (asian, black, hispanic, etc) it has nothing to do with my comment on the low-lifes that live on Jackson Street. What exactly is a "biggit"? "
Krusty wrote on Sep 30, 2007 8:22 PM:
" It does seem that fertility and IQ are inversly related. (sassyone: that means that dumb people have more kids) I doubt that giggie or sassy have ever had to visit a fertility clinic, unless of course they had part-time jobs there mopping the floors at night. "
sassyone wrote on Sep 30, 2007 8:20 PM:
" Wow crusty your so right all poor people that live in a crack neighborhood should loose their children. Lets be more racist tell the other races what you really think. That all rich people should adopt children. Was I wrong on saying that? Ok that was a great offer on your part to have then move down to your neighboorhood wheir its safe. BIGGITS "
happymom wrote on Sep 30, 2007 8:15 PM:
" This evening's entertainment provided by Sass and Gigs, purveyors of fine paranoia county-wide. "
sassyone wrote on Sep 30, 2007 8:10 PM:
" I agree giggie2 the County of LaCrosse should use all efforts to keep famlies together and not all parents stay together as long as they can parent and want to thats all that matters. Showing your child you love them is also great to. I personally would let the media know all that is going on. I believe all theese negative comments are by social workers profiting or by adoptive parents that couldnt breed on their own so they gotta steel children from loving and carion parents that want to be good parents. Dont worry county employees you think this story made you look bad wait until it makes national news..ha ha ha ha. "
happymom wrote on Sep 30, 2007 8:03 PM:
" Gosh, Gigster, that was quite a stretch! You're right, we should jump for joy every time a mom like the one in the article (mentally disturbed, three kids in foster care) pops out another baby. She should have unlimited children! Why, let's throw her a baby shower next time, shall we? Where did you get the whole racist thing, anyway? "
giggie2 wrote on Sep 30, 2007 7:48 PM:
" Happymom, it sounds like she isnt a happy lady. What your saying is that blacks, indians, asians, iranians,and people of different beliefs than you cant raise their children? You are very discriminitory or you work for the county or is it money for you? So happymom how much money do you want for your children? maybe you dont deserve to be a mother you racist..Dont forget about the poor and disabled. People from different ethnic backgrounds should speak up against this considering what happened to coloreds back in the 60's no thanks to people that believe the same way happymom believes. "
happymom wrote on Sep 30, 2007 7:13 PM:
" Kudos to Krusty, and dictionaries to the others! "
sassyone wrote on Sep 30, 2007 6:35 PM:
" I strongly encourage people that lost their children to write to reid or contact maury, opera, montel ,and get their story out their and leave it up to the viewers to see if La Crosse County cares about reuniting famlies or if they are in a great hurry to profit. If the people had access to all the files from all the adoptions they would see a patern going on. I prey that the feds get the records and look at everything. "
meria jane wrote on Sep 30, 2007 6:25 PM:
" I believe Human Services has to much state wide control. I feel that the federal government should have control and oversee how things are done. "
happymom wrote on Sep 30, 2007 3:32 PM:
" Well, thank goodness we all now know that La Crosse County foster parents are all a bunch of spermless, eggless millionaires just trying to buy babies that the county steals from poor, disabled folks. Sounds like a plot for a movie starring B-list actors. "
sassyone wrote on Sep 30, 2007 3:19 PM:
" I think that their is a lot more going on in this county than anyboby knows. The public cant look at the files that says how many adoptive parents are adopting children that cant have children of their own. I remember reading something in that story done back in April on how much money the county gets in federal and state grants. sounds to me they would do whatever they could to get those grants. They should be helping people that have a disibility itstead of saying that they leach off the system ,concidering La Crosse Human services leaches more money then someone on disibility does. People so now you really know where your tax money is going. To help them live a high class life. "
giggie2 wrote on Sep 30, 2007 1:53 PM:
" I know of one family that raised all four of their children for about five years now and they did a great job. La Crosse county got envolved and tjis poor family is forced to adopt two of their four children out . Their two boys after being in foster care with La Crosse county are misbehaving and trying too commit suicide. You tell me readers that La Crosse County is so great. My opinion sounds like they make deals to sell children to wealthy famlies that cant have children of their own. La Crosse goes through the motions of things they are suppose to do without actually doing them . Just my opinion though. "
happymom wrote on Sep 30, 2007 1:48 PM:
" Giggie-girl, the county should have more programs to help families stay together? Are you crazy? What is going to help an emotionally disturbed woman who reproduces at will without the benefit of marriage keep a "family" together? If the parent has little regard for the environment into which they bring children, the county can't do much to help. And, you make foster parents sound like pathetic, infertile vampires just waiting to prey on someone else's kids. That's a wee bit uninformed. "
giggie2 wrote on Sep 30, 2007 1:38 PM:
" Well the way I see things ,if La Crosse County truly wasn't profiting on theese adoptions they would have more programs that helps famlies stay together rather than having foster parents that cant have children take care of their children . One thing thats not mentioned here is that the foster parents that cant have any children can adopt the child that they are taking care of , so draw up your own opinion from this information.. "
Hillbilly wrote on Sep 30, 2007 10:37 AM:
" Here's where the state could step in and strike at the root of this problem by offering this woman a tubal ligation. "
nana3 wrote on Sep 30, 2007 9:54 AM:
" Sometimes love just isn't enough. This child has special needs, we don't know what his needs are, probably the only reason the grandparents can't raise him. We can only speculate about the issue. It concerns me to see some of the comments made by people regarding Social Services, if you are afraid of them seeing how you parent you must know you aren't doing it right. Instead of being thankful for help received from SS, most people gripe about not getting enough, always expecting more. If you work, keep your child fed, clothed, loved and a home to live in, you won't have to worry about SS telling you what to do. "
biker _itch wrote on Sep 30, 2007 9:10 AM:
" I'm following with happymom happy mom here. The grandparents raised a daughter that should not be reproducing any more. Now they want to try raising a son. (story does not say they had other children). Now if the foster parents are truely loving people, they would let the grandparents be part of Christian's life. "
CJ wrote on Sep 30, 2007 8:59 AM:
" The words "birth control" could have been useful here. 24 and 3 kids given up what a shame. "
Lee wrote on Sep 30, 2007 8:58 AM:
" This article seems tainted. There has to be more to it. Social Services do everything possible to keep families together. I have seen many parents that are disabled that don't have any problem taking care of their children. Maybe the spokesman for the county doesn't want to say anything negative about the grandparents. They probably aren't able to explain to the public why these people are unfit. That doesn't mean that they are wrong in their decision. "
happymom wrote on Sep 30, 2007 8:43 AM:
" This poor kid deserves a chance in life. Too bad we can't choose the gene pool we come from, but now this little boy has a chance with most likely competent, caring foster parents. The bio-mom of Christian needs to be prevented from creating more babies for which she cannot parent. Getting out of a person's family-of-origin is sometimes the best thing that can happen. Just because you can breed doesn't make you the best option for parenting. "
meeggen wrote on Sep 30, 2007 8:36 AM:
" I think it's time for the Tribune to take an unbiased look at child protection at La Crosse DHS. As a social worker in a local medical facility I have nothing but good things to say about our CPS system. The staff are well trained professionals and extremely committed. Give them a break. "
Cindy M wrote on Sep 30, 2007 8:33 AM:
" I feel so sorry for this family. I know what La Crosse County Social Services is like. They say one thing and do another. Sending prayers for this family. Hopefully someone somewhere will reconsider.
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miracleseeker wrote on Sep 30, 2007 8:05 AM:
" To Wheezer:
You are right; family should and does have rights to children over foster parents. Keep in mind, however, that foster parents wouldn't be in the picture if family members were fit in the first place. Taking a child into your home and caring for them when their family let them down and put them into this situation in the first place - that takes a special person. Caring for that child is natural and committing to adoption if the family doesn't prove up to the task, is an act of love. Adoption is often faster than watching the family and the courts waste these children's formative years in a futile battle that is a waste also of taxpayer's money. And yes, I'm a foster parent. "
The Real World wrote on Sep 30, 2007 7:39 AM:
" It appears to me you have to read into this that they are looking out for the best situation for the child and that is what they are doing. Family is not always the best situation. "
Jaxx wrote on Sep 30, 2007 7:03 AM:
" Unfortunately, Christian (the child) may have some health or behavioral issue that the grandparents would not be able to deal with. Let's say that La Crosse County did place Christian in the grandparent's home and a few months down the road, they found out that they couldn't handle him? What then? The child would be removed from yet another home and what would that do to the child? Reunification is sometimes NOT the best answer for the child OR family, unfortunately. Please, Tribune, find a GOOD story about social workers that are really trying to make a difference in the life of children. "
Jaxx wrote on Sep 30, 2007 7:02 AM:
" I am very curious to know what the La Crosse Tribune has against La Crosse County Department of Health and Social Services. It seems to me that every couple months, there is an article in the paper that makes social workers seem like they are stealing babies in the night. Guess what? Social workers do NOT like causing disruption in families! Most social workers try to find every resource available, and prove their active efforts, to get kids back into their homes (if the parents follow through on their conditions)! "
moab wrote on Sep 30, 2007 6:32 AM:
" Relatives lose out too many times and there is no guarantee that foster parents are any better. La Crosse County should give the grandparents a chance and not completely tear this family apart. "
Wheezer wrote on Sep 30, 2007 6:07 AM:
" What a dirty shame! Of course, we don't know the specifics on this case, but I believe all grandparents should be the next in line to take over guardianship of children taken from their parents. Unless they are child motesters or violent felons, they should have some sort of rights over any foster parent! RIDICULOUS! It seems that "foster" or "temperary" parents get just a little bit too attatched to children they know they are not going to keep, and then think they have rights to adopt over other family members. Looks like an easy way to go up on the adoption list if your looking for a kid! So if you want someone else's kid, become a foster parent! "
choochoo wrote on Sep 30, 2007 5:46 AM:
" I believe that family should get first try at getting the foster kids, BUT there is some reason the county is refusing this pair. It says they went through training for raising a special needs child. Someone must have seen something that they thought would either put this child in danger or the risk of this child being in danger. What if the grandparents got the child and something, unfortunately, happened? Then we would all be writing about why the county didn't stop this. I hope the child gets put in a nice loving home where he will get the care that is needed for him to lead a much needed normal life. "
askalano wrote on Sep 30, 2007 12:54 AM:
" What is wrong with having the Grandparents having custody. I, too, think the county/government sticks their noses into too much of our business. They are afraid if something goes wrong, they will be to blame but it sounds like they aren't willing to give these people a decent chance. What do I know, I'm just a concerned parent who would hate for the county to come into my home a say that I am an unfit parent. After being labeled, they watch you like a hawk. But yet, I know of people who are really unfit who still have their child/children. "
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