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So Moyer, the conservative rector of Good Shepherd Episcopal Church in Rosemont, went ahead with the nuptials — quite unaware of how backless the bride’s dress really was.
“It wasn’t until I blessed them and they turned around that I looked down,” he recalled with a laugh, “and saw her butt crack.”
Moyer said nothing at the time. But after years of watching wedding gowns grow skimpier and more revealing, he’d had enough.
“I never thought I’d see the day,” he said, “but I now tell couples in premarital counseling that their wedding clothes must be dignified and lovely.”
Glance around churches any weekend and it’s plain that “proper dress” is just a quaint memory for some people — and an alien concept to others.
Gone from most congregations are men in jackets and ties and shiny shoes. Women in heels and dresses — never mind hats — can be a rarity, too. It’s a trend some clergy lament and others accept.
“Sunday has lost its sense of being a special day, and I think the clothes went with it,” said the Rev. Joseph McLoone, pastor of St. Katharine Drexel parish in Chester, Pa.
“People dress a lot more casually than they used to, but I’m just happy they’re in church.”
Notions of proper church dress also can vary according to income, age and ethnicity, said McClune, many of whose parishioners live modestly. For a struggling immigrant family, he said, “it might mean their clothes are clean.”
Some synagogues, too, have noticed the change. Dress standards are “a hard thing to balance,” said Rabbi Neil Cooper of Congregation Beth Hillel-Beth El in Wynnewood, Pa. “We all want our places to be inclusive, and we don’t want people to feel as if they are not welcome because they’re not dressed up.
“On the other hand, we’re standing before God, and the way we dress is a reflection of the seriousness with which we take an encounter. If you were going to meet with the president of the United States, how would you dress?”
The Rev. Joseph Ganiel, pastor of St. James parish in Ventnor, N.J., doesn’t turn the underdressed away. But he has had it, he said, with tank tops and flip-flops and short shorts and naked navels.
“I think people should dress in accord with the dignity of the Mass,” he said, explaining why he posted a summer dress code in the parish bulletin.
But a Philadelphia woman in a jogging suit, escorting two teenage boys in T-shirts into St. Frances Cabrini Church in Ocean City, N.J., scoffed at the idea of a dress code for church.
“I think God cares about what’s in your heart, not what you wear.”
